So we started to talk to each other mainly through facebook chat as whenever I would sign on she would send me a message and we would talk for a while. She then asked me to go to a bar with her and we had a good time. So it then progressed to where we were texting almost everyday and she was asking me questions just friends dont usually ask like about your family and personal things. She also sent me a message on facebook several times saying goodnight.
At this point I felt strongly that she liked me as whenever we made eye contact i would feel it, you know what i mean. She even came to some of my baseball games and superbowl party I had.
So i asked her out to dinner the other week and she said oh yea that would be fun. So i go to pick her up and she is dressed up, and even mentioned her sisters calling her out (making it known that she thought it was a date). We go to Carrabas, shes laughing the whole time and it seems like we are connecting. She was supposed to be back at her Sorority by 8 because she had a meeting but when we left she found out it was cancelled so I was like do you want to come back to myplace or i can just drop you off. She said yea I will come back to your place. So she came over and I asked her to be my girlfriend.
She was responded
"James, dont make this complicated.....,I really just dont want to be in a relationship right now, I was in a relationship all of last semester and was sorta in a relationship the year before that. She was like you understand right. And then she said that she thinks I need to get to know her better."
I dont understand what this means, all my friends that saw us together could not believe it, it just didnt add up. What does the I dont want a relationship mean?
We still hang out regularly and everything and everything is still the same and she even mentioned the other night when I was over at her place that she did not want me to leave.Things Dont Add Up With This Girl?
It sounds to me like she is not interested in being in a committed relationship. Now don't take that the wrong way. It might possibly be that she was really really hurt in her last relationship and is afraid. She obviously sees something in you that she likes, but is not ready to make the jump. When a guy says they are not ready, it usually means they want to play the field when a girl says I'm not ready it usually means they are guarding their heart. She is actually being very smart about this and is trying to take it slow. What is wrong with dating and having fun? If it is meant for you to be with this girl long term then it will happen. It has only been a little over a month. Give it some time. Think about it; the only thing that time will give you is the opportunity to really know her not just know about her. There is a very big difference between the two. Why is everyone in such a hurry?Things Dont Add Up With This Girl?
its a N-O. try again in over 6 monthsThings Dont Add Up With This Girl?
sorry dude but what she means is that she really just wants to friends with you. she went out on the date so that she could see if you guys really were stuck in the *friend zone*. uggg we all dread the words, but hey just realize that she will want to be friends with you and it will most likely last a lot longer than a relationship.
good luck!
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